How Dads can support their partners

Dads are one of the most important people in supporting their partner with postnatal depression. You can help by reading the article above about postnatal depression so that you understand what your partner is going through and how she is feeling.

You will need to be very patient as it will be a long process of recovery. Listen to her, you don't even really need to say much back, just let her know that you are listening and do understand.

Encourage her to rest, to have breaks from baby and to take time to do something nice for herself eg long soak in bath, visit to hair dressers etc. Help out as much as possible with baby and with household chores.

If she is reluctant to ask for professional help, just gently encourage her to do so. Explaining that postnatal depression is very common and is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Just being there for her, showing your support and even just a cuddle can be beneficial.

Fathers and Postnatal Depression

There is new research which shows that rates of postnatal depression in men are higher than previously realised. However this is not being picked up by health professionals.

Health visitors often focus on mums and babies and paternal depression is left undetected.
The symptoms for paternal depression are similar to those in mothers (see above) but can also show itself in different ways e.g. withdrawal into work or obsessive solitary activities like computer games.

Fatherhood and your role as a supportive partner starts during pregnancy and therefore it is important for dads to attend antenatal classes to help prepare them for their new role.

Being present at the birth can be helpful. If dads feels included in the delivery and go on to have skin to skin contact with baby, you are more likely to develop an instant connection with baby.

Part of paternal depression is due to not having chance to connect.
1 in 10 men suffer from paternal depression. It is more common if you have suffered from depression in the past, if your partner also has postnatal depression and in first time fathers.

Don't ignore the way you are feeling. The sooner you admit that you are struggling the sooner you can start recovering. Ask for help. If you wait for someone to ask you how you are feeling you may have a long wait. Talk to family and friends and also make use of health professionals such as the Health Visitor or GP.